It’s been a hot minute since I last posted.

Since then I have –

  1.  been formally diagnosed with fibromyalgia & chronic fatigue syndrome
  2. left my job of the last few years
  3. started a new job (hopefully career)
  4. moved to a new city
  5. moved into a house renovation

So it’s been a largely mixed few months, full of good…full of feeling lost.

I think from my recent experiences I can see why people take their own lives when things appear ‘well’.

Sometimes it just gets too overwhelming and you don’t think you can keep up with the relentless pace of life and its a way of pressing stop or getting others to finally realise you can’t continue they way you have been.

That being said, sometimes one has to hit a *major* low to actually be able to rise again. Since I currently feel more calm, more in control and maybe slightly less lost…sometimes.

I am now focussing on all the good, taking more time for me, enjoying the smaller things. One good has been all the support I have received online recently – particularly twitter – which has quite honestly blown me away! Sometimes you don’t need to be strong in yourself, you just need to be reminded and surrounded by other strong people who have your back.

There are some more good things though, my job is now an avenue of growth and opportunities rather being stuck and exploited. I’m learning new things, meeting new people and change can be a good thing when you have been in a rut as long as I have!

Living in a house renovation is very challenging though, it’s amazing the things you pick up though and the chaos you sort of live with. It’s something I have considered sharing at some point, things that can make someone else’s life possibly a bit easier if they would be interested (please lmk).

I am trying my best to manage my fatigue and pain, work are aware and I have been on citalopram which does seem to make a difference for me. However, I cannot tell you how much I look forward to my post work nap. I even manage to sleep through drilling, smashing and crashing during the week with the house renovation (it is a miracle honestly). It gives me energy to be somewhat of a functional human being in the evening after work – as well as helping mood.

Luckily in terms of the move, I have already been visiting the area for the past 3 years and home is only an hour away and that drive I have done that many times…and its still painful! But it is still nice catching up with my circle of friends who are the most genuine people I have ever met.

I am now commuting to university on a Tuesday which means I get to finish work earlier on that day (which again makes the week a bit more bearable) knowing I will have just a few hours of true alone time cosy at home before the long evening awaits and the late night drive back.

So in reality, apart from the three major breakdowns  (see Instagram and Twitter for all the details) I have been carrying on and taking in all the change. Sleep routine is much better and I do actually feel more of a productive human being. So that’s a win right?

In terms of blogging and YouTube, it is something I want to get back to. It’s just taken a lot longer than I would like! It is a nice hobby for me and we all know when you stop doing the things you enjoy and withdraw from the world…you’re getting ill. But I am trying to get back to it in my own time and not being too hard on myself. Baby steps my friends…

*cringe because I am pretty sure I am just typing to myself a this point*

-Tiffany (11/02/19)

updated 18/02/19

19 thoughts on “Breaking the silence…

  1. Hi hun, just take chunks of a day at a time, then it will get easier to take 1 day at a time, it’s all been so overwhelming for you, so much change & stress & as much as it’s a relief to have a diagnosis, I know your now going to Google the crap out of it & worry yourself sick so please take advice from someone who has been there only a few yrs ago, try to look for a positive in any situation, I know how hard it is & you are so brave for putting your real life out there for people to see that sometimes were just “not OK & need help” . You truly are such a strong woman even if you don’t feel like it right now, and you will be ok, I’m always thinking of you & sending so much love to you all & huggs & prayers your way xx

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    1. Thank you so much Frances. Just wondering how I’m going to cope going forward and with working. I feel like it just makes everything so much more of a struggle really. Thank you for your kindness as always I really appreciate it xx


  2. You’re definitely not talking to yourself, the last few months have been hellish for me too, and I know all about trying to keep up the semblance of being ok gets exhausting. You’re words are honest and powerful, thank you for sharing them. Thinking of you – ToniRaptor

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  3. That’s definitely a lot on your plate! First, thank you for being vulnerable enough to be open with your struggles. That may be the difference between feeling completely alone or seeing that someone else somewhere understands for others that are struggling.

    Second, I definitely think you should blog your tips about living through a renovation. That takes a lot out of a person, and any little secrets could make a big difference!

    Britt |


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